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The resounding silence on this blog for the past week is a direct result of the vacation that David and I have taken from all aspects of our life. On the evening of January 2 we deposited our sixteen month old treasure with my parents and on the morning of the 3rd we headed to Isla Mujeres, a small island off of Cancun. It was our first time jointly away from our little girl and we had a goddamn great time. We did miss her terribly, though, and email correspondence between Mexico and New York was a thrice daily (or thereabouts) lifesaver. Thank god, as well, for our trusty Blackberrys since we couldn't work the wifi in the hotel.
This morning, I picked Stella up from Grandma and Grandpa's and she was understandably a tad hostile. She pretty much ignored me for the first ten minutes. When I first walked into the library where she was hanging out, she just stared at me, came about halfway towards me and just stood there. I knew that she was probably quite confused. Though we tried for days before we left to explain to her that we were going to be away for a little while, there is no way she could have fully grasped what the hell was going on. After a minute or so staring at me, she returned to the bookshelf and took a book down, handed it to Grandma asking her to read. While Grandma read the book, Stella just stared at me. I tried to be very calm even though inside I was wondering whether she was gone from me forever. She warmed up to me ever-so-slightly but, truth be told, it wasn't until both my parents had left the apartment that we were really able to restore our friendship. She is back home now, napping with two pacifiers and George (her favorite Curious George stuffed animal) and I think she is over her anger and annoyance. It was actually a fascinating scene and I expect will be replayed somewhat when David returns from San Diego on Wednesday. I know she had a great time without us but it must have been so strange and confusing for her. My mom is a shrink and she reassured me that it is a really good thing for her to know that we can leave and come back but I'd be lying if I said it was easy. Tooling around Isla Mujeres in a golf cart and drinking tequila was easy. Coming home to a daughter who just may love you a little bit less was hard.
It was definitely good for the marriage, though, to get away for a few days.
This morning, I picked Stella up from Grandma and Grandpa's and she was understandably a tad hostile. She pretty much ignored me for the first ten minutes. When I first walked into the library where she was hanging out, she just stared at me, came about halfway towards me and just stood there. I knew that she was probably quite confused. Though we tried for days before we left to explain to her that we were going to be away for a little while, there is no way she could have fully grasped what the hell was going on. After a minute or so staring at me, she returned to the bookshelf and took a book down, handed it to Grandma asking her to read. While Grandma read the book, Stella just stared at me. I tried to be very calm even though inside I was wondering whether she was gone from me forever. She warmed up to me ever-so-slightly but, truth be told, it wasn't until both my parents had left the apartment that we were really able to restore our friendship. She is back home now, napping with two pacifiers and George (her favorite Curious George stuffed animal) and I think she is over her anger and annoyance. It was actually a fascinating scene and I expect will be replayed somewhat when David returns from San Diego on Wednesday. I know she had a great time without us but it must have been so strange and confusing for her. My mom is a shrink and she reassured me that it is a really good thing for her to know that we can leave and come back but I'd be lying if I said it was easy. Tooling around Isla Mujeres in a golf cart and drinking tequila was easy. Coming home to a daughter who just may love you a little bit less was hard.
It was definitely good for the marriage, though, to get away for a few days.
posted by Carolyn, David & Stella at 1/08/2007 11:33:00 AM
2 Comments:
Congrats on getting away. I pretty much tuned the world out over the week between Christmas and New Years. Man, I needed it.
I just found your site via SweetJuniper. It was your little girl's name that popped out and forced me to check out your blog. I thought anyone with the good taste to name their daughter Stella was worth a read! It seems we both live in NY and have one year old girls, AND like to travel. I envy you your trip away from the little one, as we have yet to experience our past independence. I am sure it is good for one's marriage. Cheers!
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